Moi les hommes, je les déteste
Pauline Harmange
" Je vois dans la misandrie une porte de sortie. Une manière d'exister en dehors du passage clouté, une manière de dire non à chaque respiration. Détester les hommes, en tant que groupe social et souvent en tant qu'individus aussi, m'apporte beaucoup de joie – et pas seulement parce que je suis une vieille sorcière folle à chats. more
96 pages, Paperback
First published Éditions du Seuil
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Pauline Harmange
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Pauline Harmange is an author and a feminist, writer of "I Hate Men", the feminist outburst published in 18 languages. She strongly believes that fiction has a crucial role to play in shaping representations.Community reviews
LOL. This is a delightful book, an argument for misandry that’s convincing af. It’s only shortcoming is that it lacks depth. Feels more like an essay than a book. Which is fine. more
I have a few thoughts about this, but before we start, let’s address the elephant in the room: I’m a man. And since that makes me part of the majority that the author is devoted to hating, I’m probably not 100% unbiased. This essay is what it says it is. Don’t expect a “well, actually, I don’t hate men, but you know what I mean. ” It’s not going to happen. more
I'm so confused as to why this is a. so controversial and b. so lauded. It says literally nothing new. It's like basic white girl feminism 101. more
there are two wolves inside me : one wants to make a fully detailed review of this book to highlight its flaws but to also explain that some points might be fair, and the other one wants to simply write "fair enough, i hate men too". more
Prendete 100 persone e chiedete loro se preferiscono una verità amara o una dolce bugia. Vi assicuro che tutti e 100 vi risponderanno allo stesso modo. Sulla carta naturalmente. Nella realtà quello che succede è un'altra cosa. Ho letto questo libro perché ne parlavano tutti e iniziava a fare un certo rumore, il titolo mi sembrava provocatorio e quindi ho deciso di leggerlo per farmi la mia idea. more
I read an article about this book in the New York Times that basically boiled down to "a lady said a true thing and dude-bros got offended. " And I thought to myself, "I MUST read this. "OMG. You need to read it. It is amazing. more
What a terrible book. The writer seems to be having a past traumatic experience that is yet to heal. Thus, her writing sounds pretty much like a diary of a mad bonkers spouting nonsensical gobbledygook. She has a highly questionable and delusional belief that hating men will make the world a better place to live. She forgets that her entire being was, after all, originated from a single drop of sperm of a man. more
Almost banned in France, translated into English, and adored by yours truly. "But what if misandry were necessary – healthy, even. I get why women reject it. It’s unnerving to be accused of being a horrid extremist who hates men. Thousands of women were burned at the stake for less. more
A clear and direct essay, short and incisive, in which the title is immediately explained for what it really means: hatred for men is not hatred per se, and in any case not for all men, but generally for wealthy, heterosexual, cisgender and able-bodied white men, who are at the top of the pyramid of social privilege, enjoy it fully and, above all, do nothing about it. The book focuses on some of the main reasons why men should be "hated". Women do not need men to be happy, nor should they be conditioned by their opinions, their mocking gaze, their power exercised through the privilege of a heteropatriarchal society. Women need to stop pleasing men and start thinking about their own happiness. And if to make this leap it is necessary to first hate men in order to stop justifying them, understanding them, resigning to the idea that this is how things are in this world – then this hatred, this misanthropy, is welcome. more
No. While I try my hardest to remember that even if the majority of a group are awful garbage people it doesn't mean they're all bad, sometimes it feels so good to hate them all. I've heard the word misandry for the first time in my life today, and I love it. I like how this book is not about compromise. It's angry and articulate. more
(Je ne mets pas d'étoiles parce que je suis évidemment biaisée. )Ce livre est une ode à la misandrie qui épouse d'un seul geste nos contradictions et nos colères. Pour moi qui garde les yeux souvent fourrés dans des ouvrages matérialistes ou tout du moins théoriques, Pauline a ouvert une fenêtre. L'horizon est clair - la classe des hommes nous exploite nous viole nous tue, les détester catégoriquement ne tient pas d'un seul constat mais donne aussi forme à d'autres sociabilités, donne des perspectives sur les autres femmes et nous-mêmes. C'est précieux et plein d'espoir. more
"The accusation of misandry is a mechanism for silencing women, a way of silencing the anger-sometimes violent but always legitimate-of the oppressed standing up to their oppressors. "I loved this essay. Ms. Harmange frees misandry from the confines of a weaponized insult hurled against feminists to its rightful position as an appropriate response to misogyny, violence against women, and inequality. As a social group, men ( and yes, a lot of them as individuals), suck. more
Come immaginavo tutta l'indignazione per questo libretto non è assolutamente giustificata, dato che è ben chiaro come l'autrice intenda il concetto di "misandria", che non é neanche lontanamente paragonabile all'odio razziale per gli ebrei (come ho letto e sentito da più individui). La questione è di riconoscere che la misandria è un effetto della completa misoginia della nostra società. Provare astio per gli uomini come categoria, che denigrano, sfruttano, stuprano e uccidono le donne (si si, ma non tutti eh, lo abbiamo capito) è un sentimento umano, e Harmange ci spiega che è inutile continuare a fingere di non provarlo. A questo punto, prima di offendersi a caso, ne consiglio la lettura. 3/4 per il testo, ma sento di dover dare 4 per compensare con le "valutazioni" di chi non lo ha nemmeno letto prima di giudicarlo. more
"Misandre isteriche e fighe di legno"✿ Non farò l'iperbole facile paragonando questo libro a quello famoso del nazista austriaco, però capiamoci, di base sono la stessa cosa. Questo libro è ciò che succede quando le ideologie del femminismo radicale (o tossico, se preferite) si distaccano talmente tanto che vanno avanti, fanno un giro, tornano indietro e diventano esattamente come quel maschilismo che tanto odiano. Non mi metterò a parlare del libro perchè non lo voglio prendere sul serio, è ridicolo e ipocrita come ridicole ed ipocrite sono le femministe radicali. Mi limiterò a prendere qualche stralcio e a percularlo perchè questo si meritano. ✿ L'autrice ci tiene a dirci che si, odia gli uomini ma se ne è addirittura sposato uno mica cotica. more
Yes. I did pick this book up because I saw it listed as a book that was banned in France. I’m probably going to come of as a ‘pick me girl’ for this opinion. (Which is a sexist term in itself but don’t get me started on that. ) Let me just start by saying that I’m a feminist in that I believe that men and women should in an ideal world be equal and have the same rights and opportunities. more
I needed this short book (or long essay) right now and enjoyed every page of it. There's not a tongue-in-cheek here. She means it — not like Valerie Solanas — but you better believe she means it. It strikes a good balance between wit and serious philosophy. And I can't say I disagree with a single word. more
Bien malheureux ceux qui s’arrêtent au titre et pourtant, je les comprends un peu. En le découvrant, moi aussi il m’a gênée : oh, quand même, détester . Comme elle y va . Dans mon cheminement féministe, la misandrie m’apparaissait comme l’exact contraire de la misogynie. Elle me semblait nourrir les tensions et les incompréhensions entre les unes et les autres, je disais : on a besoin des hommes pour avancer - ce qui signifiait implicitement, on a besoin d’eux à nos côtés alors veillons à ne pas les froisser. more
Très court, sans prétentions. L’autrice remet les pendules à l’heure pour celles et ceux qui seraient encore dans un sommeil profond. Ce livre c’est un peu la base, le b. a. -ba, enfin vous avez compris. more
Well here's the thing: If someone is trying to tell you, you need to hate somebody in order to be loved, take your money and buy a different book. Nevertheless, Pauline Harmange is not completely wrong, she just derives to conclusions, that are more or less nuts. I am convinced that most women can relate to her reasons, as to why the author is actively promoting misandry, but I applaud every women who finds it in herself, to be the bigger person and not give in to such foolish ideas. By the way, fruit for thought, when has is it historically ever proven to be a good strategy, to let your actions be controlled by anger and hatred. more
Che un libro così posato scandalizzi così tanto è prova di quanto ci sia necessità della rabbia delle donne. more
This very fast feminist read was in danger of being censored by the French state in autumn 2020, on the grounds that it incites to hatred. The culprit of this brilliant idea. A man (of course. ) by the name of Ralph Zurmély (let’s record his actions for posterity), who on top of everything works at the French ministry of equality. In reality, for anyone who bothers to actually read the text and have a few neurons in their brain, this is an essay on a word that I was very surprised I did not know. more
Prima di tutto: mi dispiace ma uno scritto così breve io fatico a definirlo libro o saggio, diciamo che è un saggio breve, uno sfogo da blog un po' più lungo del solito. Secondo: non vedo perché definire "misandria" un qualcosa che misandria non è. Il titolo è marketing, ed è riuscito, quindi good job, ma no, le pagine che ho letto non mi hanno convinta dell'esistenza o del bisogno dell'odio sistematico verso gli uomini (che comunque lei definisce come "uomini cisgender socializzati come tali che godono dei loro privilegi maschili senza metterli in discussione", quindi in ogni caso, "not all men", dormite sogni tranquilli). Però è stato molto piacevole e divertente da leggere, l'autrice parla in modo schietto e senza peli sulla lingua di quella che è l'esperienza femminile, in particolare di una donna a cui piacciono gli uomini, esperienza in cui mi rivedo al 100% , dal bisogno continuo di approvazione maschile negli anni adolescenziali, al carico mentale che dobbiamo sostenere nelle relazioni romantiche. Il suo è un grido di rabbia, che condivido, però non penso che siano queste le parole corrette da usare. more
Poteva essere mejo. Sì. Poteva argomentare di più senza semplificare. Decisamente sì. Mi ha detto delle cose che non sapevo. more
I hate the power men have in our society and I hate bad behavior. The world is built for (strong white) men and I want to deconstruct it as much as the next (wo)man. Things in this book don't make sense to me. This isn't my reality. In my life there's men who speak of their feelings and do chores around the house. more
Grundsätzlich ist gegen Pauschalisierungen als Stilmittel nichts einzuwenden. Eine Brandrede soll schließlich ihre Adressaten wachrütteln und aus der Komfortzone holen. Das gelingt der Autorin zweifellos, wie allein schon der provokante Titel beweist. Leider wirkt ihre Abrechnung mit dem Patriarchat allzu oft in sich widersprüchlich. Einmal sind Männer "gewalttätige, egoistische, faule und feige Wesen". more
Not as radical as it wants to be but there’s no denying its satisfying. . more