Self-Made Man: My Year Disguised as a Man is a 2006 book by journalist Norah Vincent, recounting an 18-month experiment in which she disguised herself as a man-"Ned"-and then integrated into traditionally male-only venues, such as a bowling league and a monastery. She described this as "a human project" about learning. +more She states at the beginning that she is a lesbian but not transgender.
In the book, she describes her experiences as a man in strip clubs, on dates, and as part of a men's support group.
In order to effectively pose as a man, Vincent acquired a buzz cut and flattened her chest using a small sports bra. She also hired a makeup artist to fake a five o'clock shadow and trained for months to imitate a deeper male voice. +more She changed her diet and exercise regime to "bulk up" with more upper-body muscle.
Vincent joined a men's bowling team, where she says "[the men] just took me in . +more no questions asked. " She eventually became friends with them, even coming along to strip clubs and dating women who had no idea of her true sex. She later revealed that she was actually female to the men, who "took it well. ".
Vincent also recorded Self-Made Man as an audiobook for Penguin Highbridge.
Vincent wrote about how the only time she had ever been considered excessively feminine was during her stint as a man: her alter ego, Ned, was assumed to be gay on several occasions. Features of herself that had before been seen as "butch" were seen as oddly effeminate. +more Vincent stated that, after the experiment, she gained more sympathy for the male condition: "Men are suffering. They have different problems than women have, but they don't have it better. They need our sympathy, they need our love, and they need each other more than anything else. They need to be together. ".
53-year-old journalist Norah Vincent opted for assisted suicide on July 6, 2022, 14 years after experiencing what it was like to live as a man.