Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?
Julie Smith
Drawing on years of experience as a clinical psychologist, online sensation Dr Julie Smith provides the skills you need to navigate common life challenges and take charge of your emotional and mental health in her debut book. Filled with secrets from a therapist's toolkit, Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before. teaches you how to fortify and maintain your mental health, even in the most trying of times. more
368 pages, Hardcover
First published HarperOne
3.9
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Julie Smith
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Librarian Note: There is more than one author in the Goodreads database with this name.Dr Julie Smith is a clinical psychologist with over a decade of professional experience. She is also an online educator and social media star with a combined following of more than 3 million.Julie launched her Tik Tok account to make her services more accessible; her posts on TikTok and Instagram have already amassed more than 20 million likes. She has appeared in two BBC films and on BBC Breakfast, CNN International and Radio 5 Live and has written for The Mail on Sunday, The Evening Standard and The Daily Telegraph.
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As a veteran reader of self-help books I look for original content and information that can be actually put to use rather than theoretical prose. This book accomplishes both of these things and there are actual tools and ideas which can be put to use by those who need some help with emotional issues. Dr. Julie has a following on social media and this book is her way of putting together advise on a variety of subjects from self-esteem, to depression to grief. I appreciated the fact that the author did not start the book with chapters of scientific studies on the brain as I have read those many times and that type of information is not useful to someone who is suffering. more
Isolation. Restriction. Vigilance. Anxiety. Aggravation. more
3,5. I think this book is very helpful for someone who has no knowledge or background on psychology. The way the information is presented is structured and easy to understand for the general population. And I think for someone who needs a bit of clarity about anxiety, meaning and life in general this book can be valuable. I liked the way it dived in situations where not being stressed is not an option and how to tackle this areas of life. more
Empfehlung🥰. Ein Buch, das verschiedene Bereiche der mentalen Gesundheit thematisiert und Lösungsansätze/ Unterstützungswerkzeuge für Ängste, Stress, Selbstzweifel etc. anbietet. Der Schreibstil blieb durchgehend nahbar und einfühlsam, was das Lesen sehr angenehm gestaltet hat. Dennoch erfordert es Ruhe beim Lesen, um über die Aussagen auch wirklich reflektieren zu können. more
I didn't gain any insight from this book but I'm happy that books like this exist for people who need them. more
This was a very useful and practical guide for mental health issues. I loved her short, to the point chapters with tools that were also summarized at the end. The tools fitted nicely to the themes, and I’m sure everyone will find tips that they can use to improve their well-being. The author also explains concepts in a way that is easy to grasp, and I kept thinking that I must use these explanations myself when talking with clients. She was also empathic and it shows how much she cares for others, genuinely wanting to help. more
I really wanted to love this after following Dr Julie on social media for quite some time now, but I just didn’t. It was quite bland and I felt often like she only scratched the surface. I was expecting more science, more depth. But it just felt a bit like there were too many things covered in not enough depth. There are some great points and things that resonated with me and I would still recommend it, especially to self help rookies or people struggling right now. more
وقتی کمی سرما خوردید، مایعات و غذای مقوی می‌خورید و استراحت می‌کنیدروی یک زخم سطحی رو با بتادین تمیز می‌کنید و بانداژ می‌کنیدبرای دردهای بدن از کمپرس سرد و گرم استفاده می‌کنیدبرای سلامت روانتون هم بلدید کارهای پایه رو انجام بدید؟این دقیقاً هدف دکتر جولی اسمیت در این کتابه. به نظرم این کتابِ کمک‌های اولیه برای روانه. هر کس باید بدونه در مواجهه با غم، ناامیدی، افسردگی، اضطراب و سوگ باید در ابتدا چه کارهایی انجام بده و در صورتی که اوضاع بدتر شد به دنبال کمک تخصصی بره. همون‌طور که باید بدونی چطور زخمت رو ببندی که عفونت نکنه، اما اگر خونریزی بند نیاد باید خودت رو به دکتر برسونیفکر می‌کنم اکثر ما هیچوقت این‌ها رو یاد نگرفتیم یا از راه سختش با آزمون و خطای فراوان فهمیدیم. جولی اسمیت این نیاز رو در مراجعانش شناسایی می‌کنه و اول ویدیوهای کوتاهی در اینستاگرام و تیک‌تاک درست می‌کنه تا این اطلاعات پایه رو به مردم بده. more
This Review ✍️ Blog 📖 Twitter 🐦 Instagram 📷 Support me ☕February's Non Fiction book of the month. I don’t have a TikTok account and although this may be a weird way to start a review, I am saying it because apparently the author is a TikTok star with many followers. I stumbled upon this when I was browsing through Edelweiss for ARCs and the title caught my attention so I saved it as future reads and got it when it was published. This was my February’s Non-Fiction book of the month. The book is a self-help one revolving around mental health and ways to cope with every day challenges. more
Amazing. Just fantastic and life changing. After reading this you will shake your head and say “why has no one ever told me this. ” Seriously. This is life insight that everyone needs to hear and it’s written in such a way that it’s easy to understand. more
3,5⭐️Un livre intéressant sur le sujet de la dépression qui a le mérite de remettre l’église au centre du village. Seul défaut j’aurais aimé que l’autrice développe un peu plus les idées présentes dans ce livre je file m’abonner à son compte Instagram. . more
The basic structure of this book goes: I won’t tell you to (insert common self help advice) like other self help books. Instead try (insert vaguely differently phrased but pretty much the same advice). I really just can never connect with self help books that shit on other self help books. It’s just so painfully un-aware. And the title really didn’t hit for me. more
I will be using this book for reference. The various sections deal with moods, motivation, emotional pain, grief, self-doubt, fear, stress, and how to lead a meaningful life. It's a really useful guide on how to recognise your behaviour for what it is and provides methods for understanding what's happening and for counteracting the behaviour if it's causing you stress or anxiety. The power of any thought is in how much we buy into it and how much we believe it to be true and meaningful. Thoughts aren't facts, they're judgements, theories, memories, predictions, and interpretations about the future. more
2,5/5high expectations but in the end i learned nothing new. but it can be probably useful for some people. more
⭐⭐⭐⭐ / ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐“Just as thoughts are not facts, feelings are not facts either. Emotions are information, but when that information is powerful, intense and loud, as emotions can be, then we are more vulnerable to believing in them as a true reflection of what is going on. I feel it therefore it must be a fact. Emotional reasoning is a thought bias that leads us to use what we feel as evidence for something to be true, even when there might be plenty of evidence to suggest otherwise. ”"Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before. more
I am just as puzzled. Why has nobody told the author this before. As someone into psychology, self-help, and therapy, I learned nothing new from reading this book. The author's "knowledge" seems as basic and mainstream as it gets. She reveals that most people struggle in some way, even if they do not show it. more
Šo grāmatu jātur pa rokai un jālieto tāpat kā citi lieto Bībeli. Kad vienreiz izlasīta, tad var atgriezties un atkārtot konkrētā brīdī noderīgo nodaļu (par motivāciju, šaubām, sāpēm, stresu u. c. ), izmantot ieteiktās metodes un instrumentus kā sev palīdzēt. . more
it was recommended to me with a note that you probably know the theory, but it doesn’t hurt revisiting it - and that's exactly why I'd recommend it further, there's nothing groundbreaking, especially with a background in psychology, but it's well written and offers some insightful angles into this crazy hazy experience of being human. more
25% i nic nowego - priorytetyzuj sen, odżywiaj się dobrze, SPOTYKAJ SIĘ Z LUDŹMI, zapisuj na karteczce, za co jesteś wdzięczna, nie myśl o tym, o czym nie chcesz myśleć. Jeeez, somebody has told me this before. more
This book is like a mental health toolbox for anyone who concerns about mental health and well-being. It filled with different tools for different challenges. Whatever it is you’re facing —stress, anxiety, low mood, lack of confidence,grief or self-criticism —you will find ideas and ways for processing how you’re feeling, getting new perspective and strategies to help you cope. It is divided into 8 big chapters of different issues to tackle which are :1. On dark places2. more
What a timely book for me - I been struggling with mental health issues for longer than I have admitted and this book has certainly made me open my eyes. The book is divided into 8 sections and four or five chapters in each section and provides very detailed and relevant information on various coping methods on how to deal with stress, anxiety, grief, criticism, etc. Within each chapter there are charts and tables to complete and then a Q&A section to fill in - something for me to do after absorbing this book. Like other self-help books I've read, I just wish I had post-it notes handy to mark pages I wanted to re-read again; so a trip to a stationary store is next. Highly recommend for anyone who feels they are dealing with the same issues as me. more
This book contains quite a bit of great advice for mental health, but most of it you will probably have heard before if you have gone to therapy groups that teaches techniques. If you are just starting out learning about these things this book will be great. There is a few minus points for me though as I listen to these types of books to make myself motivated. And the writing style of this one is the gentle “I feel sorry for you” type. I guess that’s what a lot of people need to not feel attacked into getting better, but I’m fantastic at babying myself so I need some more punch. more
Mau ketemu buku yang rasanya seperti punya teman yang nggak menghakimi. Kalau mau, "Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before. " ini bisa dicoba. Buku ini menyoroti tentang "naik turunnya" manusia. Yang kadang bisa good mood, kadang bisa bad mood. more
It’s good, basic, helpful advice. Probably every reader will find several things that make a difference. I was impressed how often her discussions on each kind of life challenge involved some aspect of mindfulness. She talks very practically about mindfulness during real-time living, and has an impressively simple, basic way of describing what it is. I’m gonna go ahead and just quote her on mindfulness about thoughts:“Thoughts are not facts. more
'You can't control the thoughts that arrive in your mind. The part you can control is what you do once they appear'. A profound book from clinical Psychologist Dr Julie Smith. It provides phenomenal insight into how our minds work, and sound advice on managing our emotions and thoughts more effectively, particularly in response to challenges such as anxiety, stress, depression, low confidence, grief and more. Through it's practical structure, it allows the reader to dip in and out, with bitesize chapters focusing on a specific topic or issue. more
If you are new to content about mental health or if you are new to reading about improving your life this book could be for you. Personally, it read like a series of blog posts, even though I have enjoyed watching Dr. Julie on social media her book isn't any different to her 60-second videos. There wasn't anything refreshing or insightful, I feel very disappointed since I was so excited to finally get my hands on it but I do feel maybe it was a marketing strategy. Each chapter is only a few pages long and regurgitates the same information you can find online. more
„Защо никой не ми го е казал досега. “ на Джули Смит е практически наръчник, който обхваща темите за поддържане на добро психично здраве. Авторката, която е и психолог, отговаря на прост език на някои от въпросите, които се задават , свързани с психичното здраве, като обхваща многообразие от теми – ниската самооценка, тревожността, скръбта, връзките и много други. Информацията, която намерих в книгата ме накара да се замисля и анализирам някой от собствените си поведения и намерих методите за справяне за доста полезни. Слушах аудио книгата, което в ретроспекция не е най-удачния вариант, защото има практически задачи за изпълнение, които биха били ефикасни. more
Es un libro increíble, lleno de consejos, herramientas y opciones para poder superar problemas del día a día. Está bien explicado, bien estructurado y tiene todo tipo de ejercicios prácticos para complementar la teoría que explica. Es un manual de terapia en toda regla. more
I understand the intention behind compiling these pages yet I found no value in them. Oversimplification of complex topics tend to be perceived poorly, and this is how I see this book. Working as a revolutionary approach of 30 second videos on TikTok, where people are not willing to spend more than that time into a subject and value immediate rewards over anything else, does not mean it is a good idea to transfer that approach into a book format. As someone who has read multiple books to understand emotions and feelings better as well as takes therapy sessions seriously, I don’t recommend reading this except if one has never heard about the basics of self awareness and emotions management through simple tips. more