What is Self-Reliance and How to Develop It?

It's "a reliance on internal resources to provide life with coherence (meaning) and fulfillment” (Baumeister, 1987: 171)."

Self-Reliance is the topic (and title) of an 1841 essay from US philosopher Ralph Waldo Emerson.

He argues strongly that self-reliance, self-trust, and individualism, amongst other things, are ways that we can avoid the conformity imposed upon us.

• Thinking independently: The ability to think autonomously goes hand in hand with trusting your own instinct.
• Embracing your individuality.
• Striving towards your own goals, bravely.

It’s important to remember that self-reliance is not about cutting yourself off from everybody.

• Depending on others for help means there will be times when it’s not available.
• You can solve problems and make decisions for yourself.
• You feel happy by yourself, in yourself, and about yourself—without needing to rely on others.
• You develop self-acceptance.
• It encourages you to practice self-compassion and self-knowledge.
• It gives you perspective and direction.

• Accept yourself and be your own best friend.
• Develop the ability to feel confident in yourself.
• Practice making your own decisions.
• Recognize and manage dependence.
• Accept yourself for who you are.
• Don't rely on 'things' to feel happy.
• Decide who you want to be, and how you want to get there.